How to Charm a Woman
Women are complicated, but some things are universal
By David Wygant
Special to Yahoo! Personals
Updated: Jul 21, 2007
How can you charm a woman? Do they like a daily check-in phone
call? Does she secretly wish you'd text her in the middle of the day for
no reason but to make her smile? Do they prefer expensive dinners to
home-cooked meals? Rock-hard abs? Flowers for no reason?
Identifying women's turn-ons is complicated, because they all react
differently. Some women you wish came with owner's manuals so you knew
exactly how they were wired. Luckily, I've done most of the legwork for
you and am happy to pass this knowledge on to you.
Top 10
ways to charm a woman
- Be aware. This means cracking open more than the sports
section on the daily paper. Be up on current events and learn the
difference between feelings, emotions and thoughts. Women are emotional
beings and tend to think things through. They are attracted to men who are
as smart or smarter than them, and your knowledge of worldly matters will
demonstrate your intelligence.
- Demonstrate humor. Women love a man who can make them laugh.
Now don't fret here if you're not a stand-up comedian. We all have a
certain type of humor. You can be dry, sarcastic, hilariously funny,
quick-witted or dark. Being able to poke fun at yourself and just plain
old being goofy is a turn-on for women. Keep in mind that all women are
not attracted to the same type of humor, so if you don't vibe, just walk
away and try someone else.
- Have passion. A guy who lives his life with gusto is
incredibly appealing. When you speak to a woman about your life, your
travels, your job, your interests, speak with passion. That passion about
who you are will turn her on instantly. She will start to imagine what it
will be like when you are involved with her and how passionate you will
speak about her.
- Be considerate. Pay attention to the little things and look
for opportunities to make small gestures that show you care. A simple "How
was your day?" and being able to listen to her when she wants to discuss
something are huge. So many men forget about simple things like holding
the door, paying for her valet or just thanking her for a great time last
night. Women are all about a guy with manners -- she is not attracted to
the dope who acts like a caveman.
- Be honest.
Share who you are by telling her something personal. Maybe share one of
your favorite childhood memories or some personal growth that you have
been going through. Something that will show her that you are a trusting
and honest person. It also shows that you are a confident but vulnerable
man. Women love to see the vulnerable side of you. Note: Don't talk about
an ex in a bad way here. If you have to talk about an ex, do so in a
positive manner and share what you learned and how you grew from the
relationship.
- Be flexibile. Be open to her plans but surprise her with your
flexibility. Take charge and surprise her with a fun night out. Instead of
being the typical guy who makes a reservation, think about how you can be
the guy who listens to her and plans a great date that she did not expect.
If you can pull this off, she will be open to all sorts of advances from
you.
- Be positive. If you are positive about life, it shows in your
actions. I always tell men to be extra nice to waiters, bartenders and
other service people. Be a courteous driver when she's in the car. When
you are in line at the movies, don't complain. Look for the humor and try
to have fun with people all around you. Be positive about everything, and
she will find you to be very sexy and alluring. No one wants to be with a
negative hothead.
- Be balanced. Women love a successful, ambitious man. They
love that you work hard, but if you constantly put work ahead of her she
will become turned off. She will start to imagine what life with you will
be like with her needs being ignored. If you are out meeting women to
date, you need to balance your life between work and play. This will be a
major turn-on for her.
- Have ambition. Men who are ambitious about what they do are a
turn-on to women. It doesn't matter if you choose to be a rich stock
trader or a painter, as long as you are passionate about who you are and
what you do. If you don't love what you do, find something that really
turns you on. You can't attract the woman you want with a negative
ambition. Women love a man who is the best at what he does.
- Be attentive. You are out with her for the very first time,
and she tells you she loves a certain type of music. On the next date take
her to a lounge that plays that type of music. It is all about paying
attention to the details and working on your listening skills.
This list of 10 things will work in most cases. Keep in mind there is
always the woman who you just can't seem to please. If you happen to cross
paths with this type of woman, ask yourself, "Why would I want to be with
a woman who is so difficult?"
I tend to avoid the difficult, judgmental women. Knowing women's turn-ons
and putting them into practice will help you identify women who may be
relationship material. You need to realize that you want to attract and
turn on the women that are attracted to you on an equal level!
David Wygant has been a featured dating expert on more
than 2,000 radio and television shows including Dateline, ABC News, CBS
Good Morning, MTV, Fox News, and in publications including The New York
Times, Los Angeles Times, Dallas Morning News, Boston Globe, Maxim,
Cosmopolitan, and Marie Claire magazine. Look for him online at
davidwygant.com or find out more
about his products and coaching programs at
attractandapproach.com.
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