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10 Fatal Online Dating Errors that Men Make Mistakes that men make By David Wygant Special to Yahoo! Personals Updated: Sep 15, 2007 
Some men have absolutely NO sense of etiquette when they're
trying to contact women online. During all my years of coaching, women
have told me some amazing things men have written to them in emails.
Many men feel they can just say anything in an email when they are
trying to get a woman to go out with them. If they said those same
things to a woman in a bar or on the street, they might get arrested, or
at least slapped. But when they're hiding behind the secrecy of their
computer, too many men get abrasive and crude.
Here's my list of 10 things NEVER to do when you're online trying to get
a woman to go out with you. Some of these are obvious; some you'll swear
I'm making up! But all of them are things men actually do.
Top 10 email turnoffs for women
1. Don't ask her how much she weighs or what her measurements
are. You might as well just tell her you only want to sleep with her and
you have no interest in getting to know her, because that's what she's
going to think if you ask her this.
2. Don't email her seven times asking her why she hasn't
responded to your first email. Women get far more email than men do, so
you need to be patient. Instead of harassing her, relax and be confident that she's going to
respond to you.
3. Don't ask her how many other dates she's been on from Yahoo!
Personals. How many other dates someone has been on is not important.
What is important is finding out whether the two of you click when you
hang out.
4. Don't send her a nasty email if she hasn't responded to you
after several emails. It's her prerogative whether or not she desires to
be in contact with you. If she doesn't want to meet you, why get angry
and nasty? There are plenty of other women out there who you can
contact.
5. Don't ask her if she wants to have sex with you on the
second email exchange, and don't send her dirty pictures of you. Women
are all about connecting with their minds. Just because you're looking
for a quick fling, that doesn't mean she's going to respond.
6. If she gives you her phone number, don't wait a week to call
her. By extension, if you do wait a week to call her and she doesn't
call you back, don't be shocked. Women have many options online. If she
gives you her phone number, I suggest calling her that day. It keeps the
momentum going.
7. When asking for more pictures, do so without any references
to "Can you please send me a picture so I can see your body?" Ask her if she'd like to exchange more pictures, which means you send
some and she sends some. Several women have complained to me that men
ask them to send pictures of themselves in bikinis or other such things,
so that men can see their body. Men, don't do this!
8. Don't get offended if she doesn't want to talk to you on the
phone right away and/or wants to talk to you via email first to get to
know you. You need to be flexible and open to her suggestions. Sometimes
you may need to email back and forth for a week, and sometimes she'll
give you her phone number right away. Either way, don't be rude.
9. Do not email-stalk her. Many of my women clients have complained to me about men who will
email them several times a day for three weeks, until they are forced to
block emails from those men. Men, she got your email the very first
time. She just may have chosen not to open it. By sending emails several
times a day, not only are you turning her off, you're freaking her out!
You've become an online stalker. That's a guarantee she'll never go out
with you.
10. Don't send cut-and-paste emails. When connecting with her
for the very first time, don't cut and paste an email message in July
that you've been sending out for six months with a tagline that says, "I
love the holidays." By doing that, she knows you didn't read her profile
- and that you're really, really lazy!
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