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Relationship Breakup Clues
How to tell when your lover is planning to get rid of you. By Elina Furman Special to Yahoo! Personals Updated: Jul 12, 2007 
One day, you are madly in love. You're cuddling on the couch,
reading love poems and feeding each other sushi. And that's when it
happens: Your partner sits you down for the "It's-Not-You, It's-Me" talk.
You're confused and left wondering, "How could I have missed the signs?"
Breaking up is never easy. Your ego and heart are bound to get bruised.
But if you could just see the breakup coming, it might make the whole
business easier to stomach.
While hindsight is 20/20, there are always warning signals along the way. Top five signs you're about to get dumped
1. Picking fights. No one is saying you have to get along 24/7.
Constructive conflict can actually be good for your relationship. But if
you find that your partner has become argumentative over petty issues like
your clothes or choice of restaurant, that should serve as a warning sign
that he/she may be looking for an excuse to bail.
2. Forgetting to call. Used to be that your phone would ring all
day long with your sweetie wanting to make plans or calling just to say,
"I love you." Now your significant other doesn't even call when he/she is
running three hours late. It may seem obvious, but going from speed dial
to a blocked number is a sure sign that your relationship may be nearing
its expiration date.
3. Changing their stripes. A major change in appearance can be a
sign that your partner is looking toward greener pastures. Whether they've
chopped off their hair, lost 40 pounds or gone from a bold brunette to a
sultry blonde, major cosmetic changes should be noted. Of course, there's
nothing wrong with being a little vain, but if the change is accompanied
by any of the other signs listed here, you may need to get ready to go
solo.
4. Criticizing. If your sweetie isn't feeling you anymore, don't
be surprised if he/she becomes less tolerant of everything, from how you
brush your teeth to how you tie your shoes. Constant criticism is a
telltale sign that your days as a twosome are numbered.
5. Losing sexual interest. A healthy sex life can make or break a
relationship. If you find that your partner is becoming more sexually
aloof, you need to get to the root of the issue. While it's natural to
have less sex as you settle into a comfortable groove together, waiting
weeks or months to have sexual contact is a sign that something is amiss.
Now that you know the warning signs, don't panic. Just because your
partner exhibits some of these behaviors, that doesn't necessarily mean
the relationship is over. In fact, it's usually a combination of signs and
not one isolated incident that foreshadows a breakup.
If you're worried that your partner is itching to get out, the most
important thing you can do is sit down and discuss your issues in an
honest and open manner. If you take these signs as your cue to improve
communication, your relationship may just have a fighting chance.
Relationship and life-skills expert
Elina Furman is the author of "Kiss and Run: The Single, Picky, and Indecisive Girl's Guide to Overcoming Her Fear of Commitment." She has written and cowritten more than 20 books and has appeared on more than 100 national and local television and radio shows, including The Today Show, Good Morning America and The Early Show. Her books have been featured in Time, The New York Times, Cosmopolitan, Newsweek, USA Today and Fortune. She is online at kissrunbook.com. |
