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Ask the Right Questions
to Find Your Perfect Partner
By Debbie Ford Special to Yahoo! Personals Updated: Sep 7, 2007 
When it comes to relationships, how many times have you bought
the cover and not the book? Do you have a history of attracting the same
type of person, only to wind up at the same undeniable conclusion that
he or she is not the one? It may be time to reconsider the questions you
ask yourself when evaluating whether a potential partner is right for
you.
Many people who are in the market for a long-term relationship are
unknowingly shopping for a great package. Almost reflexively, we judge
people on the basis of their looks, their financial status or their
accomplishments. But as we all know, dating someone who is beautiful but
unemployed, or smart but not ambitious, or successful but a workaholic,
does not fulfill our romantic desires. By asking a few of the Right
Questions, we can broaden our horizons and open ourselves up to meeting
people who nourish us, inspire us and share our vision for the future.
Here are a couple of questions you can ask yourself before you go out on
your next date:
"Does being with this person add to my life force or do they rob me of
my energy?"
A relationship that will sustain us in the long haul should leave us
feeling strong and vibrant, not insecure and exhausted. By choosing to
surround ourselves with people who feed our life force, we increase our
chances of long-term fulfillment.
"Will dating this person bring me long-term fulfillment or will it bring
me short-term gratification?"
Many of us fall prey to going out with people who only fulfill a need in
the moment. In order to experience long-term fulfillment, we must create
and stand in our vision for the future. Only when we have a clear vision
of what we are looking for in a partner can we evaluate whether the
person we just met is consistent with that vision.
Right Questions such as these will challenge you to look deeply, to
clarify and declare what is truly important to you, and to make choices
each day that bring you closer to what you want. By asking them and
listening to the answers you receive, you can be sure that the next
"book" you pick up is one that you'll want to read over and over again.
Debbie Ford is a New York Times number-one bestselling author and internationally recognized expert in the field of personal transformation. She is the author of "The Right Questions: Ten Essential Questions To Guide You To An Extraordinary Life." For information on her upcoming seminars and training programs, visit debbieford.com. |
